My husband who smokes 6 a day (it may not be much to people who smokes alot) but its still smoking.
He said when he gets stressed and thats when he needs it, and when he is feeling bloated, annoyed, or even when he is relaxed he likes to have a ciggy.
He blames me alot because i dont help him enough. What can i do? i make healthy snacks such as carrot sticks, so evertime he is wanting a fag i give him these. and he still blames me, saying i dont support him.
I told him "its all down to the smoker themselves to quit. No one can force you etc. even if you look, at these horrible disgusting pictures on the cigarette packets, it still doesnt put smokers of, the tv adverts, awful pictures on billboards doesnt put him/other people off etc even if you watch tv documentary it doesnt put him off. His father had bypass, and still doesnt want to quit and think about his health."
he doesnt have time to go to these quit smoking sessions. he is working full time (well he works day and night. starts work at 8 in morning and finishes work at 10.30 at night
he is 27 years old.
OK, first of all i'm sure he doesn't mean to blame you, tell him that you now understand how important this is ti him and you want to help and support any way you can, first off buy him some grapes,it's a healthy food option because when smokers stop they eat more, it's very common, this is a substitute for that hand to mouth action that they get from from a ciggie, secondly tell him that you have came up with a reward scheme, use your imagination here, for every week or whatever he gets a reward for his effort, it could be sex, or cinema or a night out for a drink or a meal, let him decide what would be good and worth going for, tell him that you are there for him and ask him if there is anything else that you can do to help him stop, when he says he want,s or needs a ciggie you need to find an alternative way to occupy him, and then finally he must try hard to avoid smokers as much as he can, to do this is completely is impossible but he can try to avoid them as much as he can. remember set him some goals, it will give him more incentive and a sense of achievement each week, therefore he will try harder.